Don't persuade me to be magnanimous if you don't know my suffering.

in an issue of "Strange stories", Ma Dong said: "as time goes by, we will eventually forgive those who have hurt us." Cai Kangyong added: "that's not forgiveness, that's forget it." Yeah, there's not so much forgiveness in life. For those who judge without knowing the whole picture, I just want to say: don't persuade me to be magnanimous if you don't know my suffering. There is no real empathy in the world. When I saw such a story on the Internet, a netizen said that she had driven her sister-in-law out of the house, and then her relatives and friends were persuading her to be generous. She was very aggrieved and felt that they did not know the truth: she suffered from cancer a few years ago, when her family did not save much, and some money could not be used for financial management. She is a single mother who has to raise children and old people while she is sick. There is no one to take care of herself. All the sick money is overdrawn by credit cards. And she once lent her brother tens of thousands of yuan, never paid it back, and later made a lot of money by selling the house. But when she was ill, her brother was not only unwilling to support her, but did not even have a visit. As soon as she had a better life and repaid a little money with the provident fund, her sister-in-law ran over and said that she would give the child to the elderly. It is said that it is for the elderly, but in fact, the old man is more than 70 years old, and she can only take it. And she's just a little sick, and she doesn't have the energy to do more. At this time, the sister-in-law came to make trouble with the old man, and she was so angry that she drove her sister-in-law out. But when the story spread, she was laughed at by neighbors and relatives and advised to be kind. She can only digest her emotions on her own, because no one will really care about the truth behind the matter, and no one will be able to understand her troubles. There is no real empathy in the world, a lot of things, others are spectators, only you know best. The reason why you can be light, only because you have not experienced. Stay away from people who persuade you to be magnanimous without discerning the truth. Guo Degang once said: "it is the kind of person who advises you to be magnanimous if you don't understand anything, you must stay away from him, because lightning will affect you when it strikes him. Stab you, your blood has not been wiped clean, he is there, be brave in this matter, you will not die. Because people are like this, they hang it up regardless of their own business, and they talk wheezing when they persuade others, but it doesn't solve any problem. " Wang Yu was born in a family that favors sons over daughters. from childhood to age, she was the one who was neglected, and the good ones were left to her younger brother. Therefore, in order to meet the wishes of her family, she can only satisfy her family's boundless demands. When I went to the same school when I was a child, my brother's room was neatly arranged and exquisitely arranged, with all kinds of books and toys, but Wang Yu's room was the simplest configuration. On his younger brother's birthday, the parents would buy a gift cake for his brother in advance and invite his classmates to come home. But on Wang Yusheng's day, no one at home was interested. "I kept comforting myself and telling myself to work hard," she said. " Later, in order to get rid of her original family, she came to the big city alone to work hard. When she worked hard in the big city, her mother always thought she lived a decent life, so she made all kinds of demands: Find a job for my brother, send money to my family to support my family. She worked very hard and achieved a salary of 10,000 a month. She thought her life would get a little better, but her parents made a bigger request: to help her brother buy a house. For her, her money is not from the strong wind. Her life has been so hard. I want to save some money in order to gain a foothold in the big city in the future. Why should I pay for my family without a bottom line? Finally, she and her mother tore up their faces and expressed their anger over the years, saying that they would only send a fixed amount of money home every month. When Wang Yu's friends found out, they accused Wang Yu of doing something wrong and advised her to be grateful: "you don't know how to be grateful at all. it's not easy for your parents to give birth to you and raise you. Now that you've come out of the big city and have a broad vision, you can't just abandon your parents. Thank your parents more! " Wang Yu was very sad because her friends didn't know her, didn't know the truth, and persuaded her to forgive her family, so she slowly moved away from this friend. In the face of people who are always kind to you, please stay away, because they have no basic empathy and think that things are as black and white as they think they are. You can't expect people around you to give you encouragement and support, but it is already a great kindness to sincerely hope that they will not inadvertently give others false comments. You can choose not to forgive. But learn to heal yourself. In the face of injury, we should learn to heal ourselves. Zhang Shaohan has been popular all over the Chinese music world, her voice is highly recognizable and penetrating, and she is well known for her single songs such as "Invisible Wings" and "Aurora". At the peak of her career, she was found to have a family-inherited heart disease and had to quit her job to concentrate on treatment. Later, her mother falsely accused Zhang Shaohan of "taking drugs", "coming out", "no filial piety" and "refusing to support her parents" to the media. It was all because her mother wanted to get the money. As soon as this incident happened, no matter how Zhang Shaohan clarified it, she was stigmatized, and her career was not as good as it used to be. Until to participate in "I am a singer", her song "A Diao", let her break the cocoon rebirth. Her voice is more powerful and more infectious. The lyrics "you are Adiao, you are the bird of freedom" sings her desire for freedom and desire for rebirth. Over the years, even at the lowest point, she never gave up on herself, never gave up on her dream. Even in the face of the betrayal of her relatives, she still hugged herself, waiting to become stronger one day. "what can't beat you will eventually make you stronger." She healed herself for those who hurt her, but she did not choose to forgive: "hurt is hurt, without these injuries I will become stronger, because I am not only born inspirational, I am also born to be strong. I don't appreciate the people who hurt me, they just reminded me not to be that person. " Time can only heal skin wounds, some of which go to the bone and heart, no matter how long it has been in the past. Some injuries can never be forgotten for a lifetime, not just a few words of advice.Can let go, the greatest extent is not retaliation, but to forgive, this is impossible. The rest of your life is long. Don't punish yourself with other people's mistakes. Love yourself well. I also hope that when you are onlookers, you don't know the suffering of others and don't persuade others to be generous. May your past be clean, gentle, calm for a lifetime, and the setting sun will be accompanied by sunset. As long as you look up, beauty is right in front of you!

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