Giving up is the highest level of self-discipline.

Giving up is the highest level of self-discipline.
True freedom is to be able to control yourself at all times.


A young man with a wide range of interests wants to be an "expert" in many fields.

but after years of hard work, he was still mediocre everywhere, so he asked a master for advice.

the master said, "Let's go climbing. When you get to the top of the mountain, you will find the answer."

on the way to climb the mountain, he saw a small stone with a unique shape, and the master asked the young man to put it on him.

when you see flowers and plants with bright colors, let young people hold them in their hands.

so, before he reached the top of the mountain, the young man was already out of breath. He asked, "

"Master, why do you want me to take these? Without them, I can get to the top of the mountain faster. "

the Master smiled and said, "then why not put it down?"

only then did the young man understand the deep meaning of the master.

one's true self-discipline begins with learning to give up.

Life is limited, learn to let go, know how to give up, so that the boat of life can move forward better.

give up eagerness

Confucius, a thinker in the Spring and Autumn period, said in the Analects of Confucius: "No desire for speed, no small profit."

haste makes waste, and seeing small profits leads to great things



when we blindly pursue speed and want to achieve our goals as soon as possible, it will often backfire. The harder we work, the farther we expect.

because if you strive for success, you will have less peace of mind.

this is not only easy to make people make the wrong choice, but also easy to make people in a hurry.

I have heard such a short story:

in ancient times, there was a fruit vendor shuttling between cities.

one day, seeing that the sky had darkened, the vendors were very anxious and hoped to enter the city before the city gate closed.

on the way, the vendor asked a passer-by how long it would take to get to the city gate.

passers-by said, "if you slow down and walk steadily, you can get there before the gate closes."

if you walk too fast, you won't be able to arrive before the gate closes. "

the vendor, unaware of this, quickened his pace again and hurried on his way.

but because I walked in such a hurry, I accidentally knocked over the fruit I brought with me and had to stop to pick up the scattered fruit.

for the third time, the traders did not enter the city before the gates were closed.

if you are too obsessed with your goals, you will make mistakes and consume more energy and time because of your messy state of mind.

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will even do things like "kill the goose that lays the golden eggs" and "encourage the seedlings to encourage them".

as the writer Miyami Mei Xue said in the Tale of the Brave:

"Don't rush for success. Knowledge should be mastered through practical practice. If you act rashly, you will lose more!"

many of the successful people who have left footprints in history are calm-minded and never eager to succeed.

Zhang Zhongjing, a medical scientist, enjoys high praise in the international medical community.

it took him more than ten years to finish his book on typhoid and miscellaneous diseases, which Hua Tuo called a "real living book".

calligrapher Wang Xianzhi practiced hard for five years, dried 18 jars of water, and finally wrote the characters with tendons and bones, and became the "two kings" with his father Wang Xizhi, leaving behind many works that later generations copied.

Chen Shou, a historian of the Western Jin Dynasty, said in the Chronicles of the three Kingdoms: "the foundation should not be made in haste, and the prestige should not be established at once."

if you are anxious to establish a reputation, the means will not be bright.

No matter what you do, it is a rare self-discipline not to be eager for success or quick success.

the road of life is long, and the seemingly shortcut is often farther away from the goal.

everything is in order, and everything has a process of precipitation before it can hatch results and have lasting benefits.

in economics, there is a concept called "compound interest effect": everything has a gestation period, the process is slow and long, until it reaches a critical point, it will create a sustained income.

Don't worry about wasting time. There is no road in vain in life. Every step has its own unique value. It can be said that "if you don't take silicon steps, you can't lead to thousands of miles."

give up the desire for quick success and quick profit, use the state of self-discipline, and learn to delay gratification.

like the "lotus law" in psychology, sink your heart, step by step, accumulate and precipitate, and finally rise abruptly based on accumulated strength.

this is time, the fulfillment of self-discipline.

give up non-specialization

Wang Anshi, a writer of the Northern Song Dynasty, said: "Human talent is accomplished in specialization and destroyed in miscellaneous."

A person's success often comes from concentration.

if you are half-hearted or dabble in everything, you can only stand still and be ordinary in the end.

this is the truth of the so-called "many skills do not support the family".

because half-hearted, people will not be able to focus on one thing, but also unable to define their own goals, which is like a train without power, can only stop.

Zuo Si, a writer in the Western Jin Dynasty, is a very self-disciplined person. Once a goal is set, he will concentrate on one thing, such as writing the sensational Fu of Sandu.

at that time, Zuo Si was so inspired by Zhang Heng's Fu of Liangjing that he decided to write a Fu of Sandu that praised the capitals of Wei, Shu and Wu.

after the goal was set, Zuo Si began to take action: consult the sages, search a wide range of materials, investigate deeply, and create meticulously.

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during these ten years, he devoted himself to his creation, and the place where he lived was filled with paper and pens, just so that he could write it down at any time when there was a flood of ideas.

after unremitting efforts, Zuo Si finally achieved his goal, and those who had ridiculed him also bowed to this masterpiece and circulated it one after another. For a while, Luoyang paper was expensive.

the philosopher Cicero said:

"No matter how fragile a person is, he will be able to achieve something as long as he devotes all his energies to the only purpose."

only by giving up the attitude of not paying attention to things can one concentrate on one point and devote oneself to one's efforts.

French writer Maupassant said to Flaubert before becoming famous:

"I spend two hours reading and writing in the morning, and then two hours playing the piano.

I spend three hours playing football in the afternoon and go to the barbecue restaurant in the evening to learn how to make roast duck.

Flaubert asked, "then what is your specialty?"

Maupassant thought over and over, but could not answer the question.

Flaubert smiled and said:

"I spend four hours reading and writing every morning, four hours in the afternoon, and four hours in the evening.

my specialty is writing. "

Maupassant epiphany, thanks to Flaubert as a teacher, focused on reading and writing, and finally became a famous scholar, writing a lot of acclaimed articles.

focusing on doing one thing is a manifestation of self-discipline, a test of will, and a prerequisite for most people to achieve meritorious deeds.

just like the "Law of 10,000 hours" put forward by the writer Gladwell in his book Alien:

"the reason why genius is outstanding in people's eyes is not the first class of talent, but the continuous efforts."

10,000 hours of training is a necessary condition for anyone to change from ordinary to world-class master. "

instead of being half-hearted and not dedicated to everything, it is better to focus on the goal, continue to work hard, and bloom the most beautiful flower of life.

this is the years, the reward for self-discipline.

abandon sunk cost

the cost that has been paid and cannot be recovered, such as time, energy, money, etc., is collectively referred to as "sunk cost" in economics.

Social psychologist Robert Theodini talks about such a phenomenon in influence:

once people at the racecourse place a bet, they assume that the chances of winning the horse they bet on are always increasing.

many people will subconsciously evade their losses and unconsciously continue to invest in costs.

for example, in the Southern Song Dynasty, the Mongol army attacked Jin, and Jin asked for help in the Southern Song Dynasty.

but the people of the Song Dynasty, bent on avenging "the difficulty of Jingkang", not only resisted thinking about the truth of "death of lips and cold teeth", but also United with Mongolia and destroyed the State of Jin.

without Jin, the Song Dynasty soon became a new target for Mongolia and was finally wiped out thirty years later.

indecision, hesitation, and even depression will increase the "sunk cost" and form a vicious circle.

instead of wasting time and energy on the wrong things, turn around and move on, get positive feedback and find the source of motivation on the right path.

the young painter spent all his savings and opened a gallery on a famous art street, mainly displaying his works.

people who have a discerning eye are expected to pay a lot of money for their paintings so that they can continue their dreams.

however, the young painter soon discovered that he had made a wrong decision.

because there are so many famous galleries in this street, their own galleries are not competitive in this row of streets.

when he was upset, he went to the cafe on the street, watched the crowd coming and going, and was lost in thought.

A day later, he decided to give up the "sunk cost" and stop investing energy, time and money to support the gallery.

he decided to seize the business opportunity and open a cafe on this art street.

in order to save money, he chose to hang his paintings when decorating the walls.

did not expect that people who inadvertently came to drink coffee were pleasantly surprised to find the artistic value of these paintings.

especially when he learned that the painter was the owner of the coffee shop, the news spread like wildfire, and the young painter and his cafe became famous at the same time.

"Bole" arrived as scheduled, and the paintings of young painters were snapped up.

A painter who knows how to put down the "sunk cost" has achieved success by adjusting his direction in time.

in fact, no matter how big the "sunk cost" is, we should learn to think in a broken way.

as the book "break up" says:

"break = cut off the things you never need, give up the excess waste, and break away from the attachment to things."

people should not be trapped in things and confused in their hearts when they are alive.

Learning to give up the "sunk cost" is the beginning of self-discipline.

Don't think about what you've given, don't dwell on the past, they will eventually return in another way.

this is fate, recognition of self-discipline.

thinker Montaigne said, "True freedom."Is to be able to control yourself at all times. "

this is self-discipline.

when you are eager for success and quick success, control your mood, settle down, and give things a period of development.

when you are half-hearted and distracted, control your behavior, calm down, and give yourself a period of concentration.

when you step back by an inch and make a mistake, control your cognition, be happy, and give yourself a turning point.

in this way, life can be controlled, there is a future, and everything is on the right track.

, learn to give up, let self-discipline come into our lives, live up to every day of dancing.