People who have no skills often have these three characteristics. I hope you don't!
One's life is a long period of self-cultivation.
as the saying goes: "A bottle is silent, half a bottle is sloshing. " Really have a book. People who do things will not casually show off their talents in front of others, only those who do not know whether they have real knowledge or not, but like to brag and show off. The more incompetent a person is, he often has these three characteristics. If you have such a person around you, you must stay away from it in time to avoid being affected by it. Like to belittle others and elevate yourself. The writer Liu Cixin once said: "once a person feels superior and superior to others, he will not be far from bad luck." In life, there are always some people who like to raise themselves by belittling others. As everyone knows, the more superior people are, the more incompetent they are, and the more they want to show off themselves, but it is difficult to make a good impression. In an episode of "there are newcomers in crosstalk", a doctor couple left a deep impression on me. The Ph.D. couple, who come from a famous school, have a strong interest in crosstalk and have created a set of formulas for crosstalk. They were satisfied with the realization of their wishes and sent word that it was aimed at the champion. As soon as the couple took the stage, Li Hongye, the husband of the doctor, pointed to Guo Degang and said, "you don't know me, do you?" Guo Degang defused skillfully: then let me know you today. Originally, after a few words of performance, Li Hongye began to teach on the spot, telling Guo Degang how to say crosstalk. In the language, one sentence is "our jargon" and "Let's say something more advanced" to show our sense of superiority and dislike of others. Not only that, but also Express directly. Belittling and disdaining the traditional crosstalk of mentor Guo Degang: "they either tell old jokes every day, or copy Internet jokes. If they continue to develop like this for ten years, there is no future for crosstalk. Finally, Li Hongye gave Guo Degang a book on crosstalk published with his wife. He pulled out one of the books and said, "I think you can read this one." The sneering in the words and the showing off of one's own erudition are uncomfortable. He is very much like some people in life, who tend to think highly of themselves, tell others what to do, and gain a sense of self-satisfaction and superiority through sarcasm and ridicule. Lu Yao said: "the way to maintain your sense of superiority is to focus only on other people's shortcomings and carry them forward, which not only makes people who have shortcomings feel unhappy, but also creates an image of their own narrow eyes. This is inhumane. I think so. " I think so. People who are really capable will never trample on the dignity of others in order to show their nobility. This kind of behavior will not only arouse resentment, but also show that you are incompetent. Only humility, humility to seek advice, and constantly improve their own strength, this is the safest and most worthwhile to try. In this way, you win not only success, but also respect. Complain about others, do not know self-reflection. I don't know if you have noticed such a phenomenon: In real life, there are always such people who regard complaining as a habit, but they do not realize that the more likely they are to complain, the more incompetent they are. Tian Yulan is such a person in the TV series "Little willing". Her son Ziyou has always been at the top of his class and is at the top of every exam. But she fell to the fourth place in a math exam, which was unacceptable to her for a moment. After reading Ziyou's test paper, she found that the reason why Ziyou lost her score was that she couldn't do the last two big questions, and she always thought that her son couldn't do them, let alone the other children. Unexpectedly, Mi Tao, the daughter of her hourly aunt, did the last two big questions correctly and won the first place in the exam, which made her unacceptable, so she decided that there must be something wrong with the paper. Coincidentally, she learned from the parents of other children that the math teacher was setting up a tutoring class outside the school, so she decided that the teacher had opened a small kitchen for the children in his tutoring class. Therefore, she attributed Ziyou's decline this time to the difficulty of the teacher, causing her son not to be admitted to the first place in the examination, so she wrote a report letter and reported the teacher. Although it is indeed wrong for the teacher to hold a tutoring class, the reason why Ziyou can't do it and his own way of education have not been analyzed and considered. In addition, there were problems at work. Instead of reflecting on her own reasons, she complained that others had caused trouble and jointly reported the director in charge, resulting in the director losing his post. Even if her mother-in-law gave her money, she had to complain about why she didn't transfer money directly, had to give cash to her face, and complained that her mother-in-law humiliated herself, which made the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law extremely tense. In her world, even if she is really wrong, she can always put the blame on others. The end result is as expected. Under her constant complaints, her husband was helpless, his son was depressed and collapsed, and even her parents-in-law could not help but let her divorce. Tian Yulan, who used to complain, brought the originally happy family to the brink of collapse. Mr. Lu Xun once said: "often as soon as a person starts complaining, things move quickly in the direction of his complaint." In life, occasional complaints are a way to vent discontent But if you get caught up in endless complaints and grumble without introspection, it is not only a kind of sadness, but also a manifestation of incompetent people looking for excuses for themselves. A mouth full of gossip The ancients said: "the wood is better than the forest, and the wind will destroy it. It is necessary for the public to be superior to others. " When a tree rises above the whole forest, the wind will destroy it; when one person is superior to others, people will begin to slander and talk. Through the ages, people who have achieved great things have been hurt by gossip. On the contrary, those who are incompetent will only secretly talk about others behind their backs. After watching an interview with Yue Yunpeng, he said that he hated going back to his hometown and made him very uncomfortable. It turns out that before he became famous, 14-year-old Yue Yunpeng went to Beijing to make a living. he worked as a security guard, brushed toilets and worked as a repairman. Later, by chance and coincidence, Guo Degang learned crosstalk, and after countless days and nights of hard practice, finally in 2015, a "Song of the five rings" spread all over the country and made Yue Yunpeng an instant hit. But every time Yue Yunpeng became famous, he returned to his hometown and was often surrounded by gossip from the villagers. Some people say, "Yue Yunpeng has changed now.He is a big star. He forgot Ben after he became famous, and he didn't even want to go back to his hometown. We really got the wrong person. " Others said, "what is Yue Yunpeng? I don't even like to see him in our village. That grandson is popular now, at that time." Confucius said, "the superior man speaks with his words, and the villain speaks with his tongue." There are always some people who are unwilling to work hard and are jealous of others. When you are successful, you will be hypocritical and ingratiating on the surface, but you will be denigrated with gossip behind your back, and you can judge your every move. When they saw that their colleagues were promoted and raised faster than themselves, they spread rumors that he was going through the back door and had a good relationship with the leader. Seeing the children of relatives buy a house, buy a car and get ahead, they satirize that others buy a house on a loan and owe a lot of debt. When he saw that Fa had married a handsome and rich boyfriend, he secretly cursed that his marriage was broken. …… There is a good saying, in fact, there are only two things in the world: one is none of my business, the other is none of your business. What we really need to care about is our own one-third mu of land, and there is no need to gossip about others. The rest of my life is very short, so why talk about others? you might as well calm down and be yourself. There is a question on Zhihu that goes like this: Why is it that the more incompetent people are, the more arrogant they are? The most popular answer is: because of ignorance, he does not know how small he is. I think so. A man without ability is like a frog in a well. you can never make a frog sitting at the bottom of a well understand what he has never seen or done. all he can do is "hear". One's life is a long period of self-cultivation. You can live an ordinary life, but you can't be willing to be mediocre. May you and I have a transparent heart, not overjoyed, not discouraged, to be a truly capable person! Encourage each other!
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