You can be kind, but you can't be bullied.

some people say:

"kindness is a choice, but not a necessity. If the person you help is not worth it, rethink whether our kindness is still worth giving. "

this is true.

there is nothing wrong with being kind, but if you are blindly kind, you will only get hurt in the end.

We cannot put a heart in front of others without reservation, nor can we allow our goodwill to be easily taken advantage of.

when you are alive, you should be kind, but you should also guard it.

you can be kind, but bring your own edge

there is a saying:

"kindness is precious, but it has no teeth, and that is weakness."

sometimes, tolerance and compromise not only do not get the tenderness of others, but also put yourself in a painful dilemma.

the more you give, the more others take it for granted; the longer you are kind, the more you take it for granted.

if you are full of sincerity, you will eventually become a "lamb to be slaughtered" in the eyes of others.

after all, in today's "survival of the fittest" society, everyone wants to maximize benefits, and unreserved kindness will naturally become a weakness to be exploited.

you must not have the intention to harm others, and you must be careful to guard against others.

if you want to win the respect of others, you must make yourself grow

teeth come out.

NetEase Yunping once had such an answer:

"A bad person is a kind of poison, which not only makes you addicted, but also makes the other person addicted to your demands. It is not until everyone becomes enemies that this relationship with powerful poison ends."

instead of breaking up in discord, it is better to treat them equally in the first place.

you know, being an ordinary person with principles is far more popular than being a casual good person.

as the old saying goes, "the more a gentleman gives way, the more arrogant a villain is."

to treat kindness, we should return kindness with kindness; to deal with malice, we must return tit for tat.

tolerance, with edges and corners, kindness, with edge, so that you can have the best life.

you can be kind but know the boundaries

there is a question and answer on Zhihu: "how

understand that people are good at being deceived? "

there is an answer like this: "the good of being bullied by others is not the real goodness, but the sense of boundaries is not clear, the principle is not strong, and goodness is not bottomless."

in this world, the thinnest feelings and the coldest hearts.

therefore, in order for goodness to have its own boundaries, it should be hidden behind principles and bottom lines, rather than being exposed to others and allowing them to take.

Russell said, "if reason does not exist, goodness is meaningless."

when there is no sense of boundaries between people, kindness will become a hurtful tool instead.

Sheng Mien, duo Mi Qiu, is not to give too much help to others, let people form dependence, forget each other's boundaries, can not recognize the limits of goodness.

in fact, in many cases, there are boundaries between people

, it's just that if you give too much, the boundary will be shallow; if you give more, the friendship will fade.

kindness does not mean giving all the time. In this society, no one has the obligation to think of others all the time.

A person who puts the needs and feelings of others first must be humble in his life.

it takes a measure of kindness and a degree of tolerance.

you know, eat seven percent full, seven percent good to people, so that we can walk in the world, no longer cold, no longer regret.

you can be kind, but you can't wronge yourself

in life, we often hear such words:

"they're all relatives, so put up with it; they're all friends, so why bother? just borrow it and don't think about it; it's done, forget it."

along the way, kind people always pay too much for others and do too little for themselves. We always think of others, but in the end, who will think for us?

I have heard such a sentence:

"kindness is a virtue, but wronging one's own goodness is self-deceiving."

in this life, the most important thing to please is yourself.

those relationships that need to be courted are not worth cherishing.

those who take advantage of you can forget;

try to give up the things that are difficult for you; learn to get out of the environment that bores you.

A good relationship is to perfect yourself first, and then give extra joy and goodwill to others.

when we are comfortable, the world will become agreeable.

A person's true maturity is to abandon the dispensable goodness and live for himself.

does not owe oneself, is a kind of ability, is a kind of maturity.

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you can be kind but not easy to bully

I have heard such a sentence:

"tolerance of malicious kindness is connivance; patience of kindness is weakness; indiscriminate goodness is stupidity."

A soft heart without boundaries will only make the other party care nothing; kindness without edges and corners will only make you feel aggrieved.

there are many people of all kinds in this world, and not everyone is worthy of our kindness.

cherish the people you give, treat them well, and stay away from those who have let you down.

Don't wait for persistence to be disappointed and truly trampled on, before it's too late.

the kinder the person, the moreThere must be a bottom line.

when goodness has its limits, the villain will not take an inch.

when goodness has its edge, the wicked will not do whatever they want.

kindness is precious, and so is kindness. Leaving your heart to those who deserve it is the best end-result of kindness.

May we become a person with light in our eyes, love in our heart and sharp edge in our bones, who will still be gentle and kind after the vicissitudes of life.